"It's Not About Enduring, But Expressing It Well"... Yujeong and Changjin Talk About the Art of a 4-Year Long-Term Relationship

The couple Yujeong and Changjin appeared as the first guests on the podcast 'Dahye Studio' hosted by YouTuber Dahye, sharing honest views on long-term dating.

In the video released on the 25th, host Dahye and Dongju introduced the Yujeong and Changjin couple as the first guests. They revealed they are close enough to talk for more than 6 hours and engage in discussions on a single topic whenever they meet. Dahye introduced them as "a couple whose cuteness doubles when they are together."

"Different Environments, Understanding is Key"... The Relationship View of a 4-Year Couple

The Yujeong and Changjin couple, who have been dating for over 4 years, showed different perspectives on the secret to a long-term relationship. Regarding the reason why long-term dating is possible, Changjin offered a joking opinion, saying it is because they "endure to meet" and sometimes it might be possible because "breaking up is a hassle."

On the other hand, Yujeong expressed the view that "if you fight well and resolve it well, the relationship can actually improve as something that was stagnant is released," noting that a relationship where one only endures unconditionally might mean one side is enduring infinitely or is in a state of numbness. The two agreed that since their environments are different, they could not be a perfect match from the start, and they reached a consensus that "having a mindset of understanding each other is important." Changjin added, "I feel like I become a bit more generous toward my partner than toward myself."

Personality Differences Seen Through MBTI..."A Meeting of an Avoidant Type and an Expressive Type"

The video also covered the personality differences according to the cast members' MBTI types. Yujeong was mentioned as an ESTJ with a realistic tendency, while Changjin fluctuates between I (Introverted) and E (Extroverted) depending on the situation, but fundamentally possesses T (Thinking) and P (Perceiving) tendencies. Changjin explained, "When things aren't going well, the I comes out."

Their ways of dealing with conflict situations clearly showed their personality differences. While Yujeong wants to speak up immediately to resolve things when a problem arises, Changjin stated that he tends to remain silent rather than expressing himself immediately when he is not feeling well. Yujeong lamented, "When the other person stays silent and does nothing, the atmosphere changes, which makes me more annoyed and leads to fighting." Changjin mentioned that it takes time for him to recognize when he is not feeling good.

Regarding this, Changjin said, "Over the past 4 years, I have learned that even if there are unfair parts, soothing [the partner] comes first," and said he tries to apologize immediately so that small problems do not flow deeply. Yujeong mentioned that the fact that Changjin does not raise his voice in conflict situations because he is conscious of how others see him actually helps in easing the conflict.